20/30 Perspective

It’s this time of the year again.

Just as I was trying to forget and hope that no one remembered, they posted this photo in our company social media and office billboards that reminded me of my upcoming birthday. There’s no escaping now and no hiding how “old” I’m becoming.

This is the month.

Exactly a fortnight from now, I will be stepping on that dreaded age people say. At least the first one. You know how 30 is dreaded, 60 is more dreadful, but 90 is an achievement. If 120, God’s favor is certainly with you but only few have reached this far.

I have to come to terms with the fact that after this year, I will begin hiding my age and try to be evasive as possible when asked. Hahaha!

Been in denial this past few weeks that ‘that “dreaded” day’ will come. Had so many ducks in a row and dreams I wanted to accomplish just before I left the calendars, but not everything in life that we plan comes to happen. I wanted something super BIG to happen before I was 30 or do something BIG (like Skydive maybe, all the way from Space? Haha) But… I realized that not all of life’s Blessings are big. In fact, most of life’s blessings comes in those little simple (even probably repetitive) moments—like a beautiful sunrises, breathtaking sunsets, warm hugs, brilliant smiles, time spent with the people we love, timely words… They’re our building blocks. They have the power to influence our daily lives, in turn, influence our Life.

Of course there are huge milestones, leaps of faith, great victories, unexpected achievements, and memorable miracles…they are also things in life to be thankful for. And when you’re turning 30, I guess it’s this time when you can say that life doesn’t really go as you planned but it’s good that God makes the plans. There are no more capable hands than His. Life doesn’t have to to be about big things…it could be about a collection of several small things that make up who we are.

It also made me realize also that the notion of “old” shouldn’t affect me because I’ve always been Old—Old Soul, Young Heart. And at least I could be proud to say that I can still sprint faster than a 19 year old athlete. 🙂 (But I still can’t beat my 61 year old Dad). All by God’s grace. And that’s exactly what to look forward to—More of His Grace in the years to come.

So now…even if I can’t immediately change the way I feel about turning 30… I can change my PERSPECTIVE. And you know what they say… Perspective is Everything.

I can’t wait to see what God will do. 🙂

Inspiration

I want to INSPIRE, more than to just be inspired.

Singlehood from the Eyes of an Accomplished Woman

I don’t get why some people who are in a relationship or just got married have to be such bullies to those who are not. Sometimes it makes you feel like they want you to be miserable for not being in a relationship.

These are thoughts I normally keep to myself, but I’m really frustrated at all these people pressuring me just because my sister just got married.

I can’t believe the kind of stuff people tell us just so we can “attract” a man:
1. Act dumb
2. Pretend to be weak, and Let men be stronger
3. Lower your standards
4. Make them feel that they know better than you do because that’s what they want
5. Be a damsel who needs saving
6. Etcetera etcetera etcetera…

Well, first and foremost, I don’t need to act dumb if a guy’s brain dumbfounds me. And I don’t need to act weak either when the man is truly stronger than I am. I’m sorry, but I’ve never been gifted at PRETENSE in the first place.

Yeah, you can call me a misfit for the Philippine society of women. Or maybe Society as a whole.
I’m an army-trained adrenaline junkie, I don’t back down. Can you blame me for being born with an Alpha Male well-rounded Dad who happens to be whom I am a reflection of?

If being born with a God-given Superior IQ on all 7 areas of intelligence, and being extremely athletic disqualifies me for marriage, then should I consider it a curse? As far as I’m concerned, God never made me with Overflowing gifts just to hide them in a treasure box. I never believed in sandbagging anyway since I believe God called us all for Excellence. At the end of the day, if I take those advices above-mentioned, the man’s gonna know sooner or later that it was never really the real me in the first place. Unfortunately, it’s hard to be born a superwoman.

I never believed that marriage was intended for a woman to be less than who she is. God must have planted all those talents inside of her for a reason. They were given for a mission. And that purpose she must fulfill. What did the parable of the talents say?

It’s just unfortunate that people closest to you have given up on you and wants to change who you are just so you can attract someone. By doing so, they just marked you as impossible. Don’t get me wrong. POSITIVE Change is good. I love change. But if the change moves you from being Best to Good, instead of Good to Best, then there’s something wrong in the equation. I will not participate in that change.

And is it such a curse to have a father who is a Real Exceptional Man that turns out to be all my standards? If you tell me to lessen my ideals, sure. But only to the level where I set myself as the baseline Standard, other than the Biblical standards.

No. I don’t mind being single if I’m just gonna have to live with a ‘lapdog’ instead of a man I can really respect and follow. When it comes to leadership, I always wanted to have a man to follow. Submission isn’t an issue with me. Despite all my leadership skills, I would gladly acquiesce the reigns to my life to someone who is more right and more capable of leading me.

I apologize if this happens to be throwing stones at anyone and thus might forever diminish if not deplete my chances of getting married. I may be scarred for life, but I just needed to put it out there. Just like every single female who made history but was perhaps too premature for her time (e.g. Jane Austen, Queen Elizabeth I, Mulan, Joan of Arc), I hope that someday I’ll make history like they did. Not for myself, but for my God…and be Fully who He really created me to be.

If you’ve male, good for you.
My piece of advice?

Be courageous. Do something.

WHAT over WHAT IF

 

This world is so stuck asking the question WHAT IF rather than focusing on the answer WHAT SHOULD BE.

 
When your central focus is to obey God, you stop asking questions. You just follow. What’s so hard with that? WHY do we keep on asking WHY?
 
I remember a preacher say this before: “Ever wonder why the men of Faith in the Bible got CLEAR directions and answers from God in an instant? BECAUSE THE IMMEDIACY OF THE RESULTS ARE DIRECTLY PROPORTIONAL TO THEIR PRAYER LIFE. CHRIST was the perfect example. He was God, but he prayed incessantly. He healed the sick and drove out demons instantly.”
 
Although we do not discount the fact that God can say, “WAIT”…but in the waiting, do we waste time asking WHY rather than OBEY and be productive while in the wait. Even a Wait is a definite “Yes” and “No” answer—a “Wait” answer is actually a “No…for now”. Take it as it is.
 
God gives Wisdom, in an instant, to those who earnestly seek to Obey Him. Discernment grows proportionately with how much time we spend with the Bible and how closer we draw to Him. By the time Discernment matures, we do not ask WHY and WHAT IF… WE just KNOW.
 
Isaiah 20:31 – Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.”
 
How well do you know your God’s voice (and His Word) to know which way to go? And how well do you apply the little you know more than just gathering head knowledge?
 
Think of Obedience as a Listening Skill. It is sharpened the more you exercise it. When you disobey, you become calloused and you start hearing God’s voice dimly or you can’t distinguish it anymore in the noise of other voices.
 
Don’t waste your life in the “MALAY MO” [WHAT IF / YOU NEVER KNOW…].
It’s God’s precious time you’re wasting.
 
There are more important things to life than asking WHAT IFs.  It’s doing the WHAT.

True Value

Sometimes THE MOST VALUELESS, unappreciated things are THE MOST USEFUL, necessary ones.

 
When someone gives us a gift and the giver gives another gift to someone else, we tend to compare the monetary value of our gift to the other person’s. And in turn, we end up perceiving our value in the giver’s eyes as low as the value of the object that was given.
 
What we don’t realize is that sometimes, the things that were given to us might just be the things we need. 
 
Which one would you give a beggar, a bar of the most expensive chocolate or a full meal with rice & bread? Think about the value of a broom…it’s cheap but a beautiful mansion wouldn’t live long to be beautiful without it. And how do you take the gift of water?…water barely costs us anything, but we need it to live. The list can go on and on and on.
 
I just remembered this ‘coz someone just gave me very USEFUL gifts today. Which reminded me of my highschool days when I received an ordinary notebook as a Kris Kringle gift during my freshman year. I had given an expensive Basketball Ball in exchange, so I felt pretty bad that the value I had given wasn’t equal to the value I received. That Ordinary Notebook turned out to be the most precious notebook of all time. It ignited my passion for writing (scribbling stuff in it just so I could fill up the blank pages and put good use to it); it spurred my interest in history, in trivia, in poetry, in wise & inspirational quotes, and in extraordinary things; it made me the deep person I am today who reflects on life with a different perspective. And if you asked me then what the value of that notebook to me was at that time, I’d probably say “It’s pretty cheap…around a hundred pesos.” But if you ask me of it’s value today…I’d say “It’s priceless.”
 
Never underestimate what little simple things can do for you. In the end, they might just be the things you’d be thanking God for.

LIFE and the Rain

Normal Day…Unheard Stories…Godly Reflections.

 

 

EARLY MORNING today, I walked to work and it was raining a bit. I was about to cross the street to my building when I saw a father walking with his little child (around 2 years old) without any umbrella. He was holding the boy’s hand. They seemed to be enjoying the morning and just taking  in the mild but satisfying drizzle.

 

And then it made me think. In normal circumstances, most people would try to run and seek shade or open an umbrella  to try and shield their children from getting wet.  But here they were, taking that light stroll, and basking in the beautiful rain. It reminded me how God the Father walks with us and allows us to experience trials and challenges because He knows it’s good for us. And as long as we are holding His hand, we should be enjoying the stroll. He’s building our tolerance to the rain, and teaching us to find joy in it.

 

 

AROUND LUNCHTIME, I had a meeting out of the office. I got into a taxi on the way back, and was wondering why the driver looked distressed. A few meters from the taxi waiting line, he received a phone call which he answered in a low voice. The first thing I heard was “Pati siya rin, wala na?” His voice was sad, but calm. So I thought it was just a friend or a relative who had died. After a few more murmurings, my officemate suddenly exclaimed, “Ano?!” Then he repeated what he said. “Wala na ang asawa ko.” (My wife just died.) I asked him what happened and started throwing him some questions. Then I learned his story.

 

He wasn’t a taxi driver. He was a Pastor who was substituting as a driver in order to earn extra income to pay for hospital fees since he really earned nothing as a Minister. He said his wife had an overdue pregnancy (10 months), and that took the life of both her and their child. At first he thought it was just okay since she seemed to be doing well, and he was busy Pastoring the flock. He had married late, and this was supposed to be his first child with his wife at his 40s. It was heart-breaking. I him told I was a Christian too and that I would pray for him. My heart went out to this man. He said thank you and God bless you. I felt his sorrow, but I also admired at how strongly he took the circumstance. You could tell he was sad, and still in the process of accepting the reality, but he was peaceful. And he was truly convinced that there was something good God was going to do in the circumstance. We dropped off a few meters away, paid him extra,  and told him to go see his family. I wish I had more time to minister to him and pray with him, but we were in bad trafficzone and there was less than 100 meters from pick-up to drop-off.

 

Today seemed like an ordinary day, but again (like I normally do on a normal day), it paid to observe people and to listen at their unheard stories. Everyone goes through something. We could be quick to judge how irresponsible the first father was for allowing his child to walk in the rain with him; or how bad the driver’s mood was for not greeting us with a smile. We could be angry at people who get cranky on some days, or un-smiling on other days. We don’t know what they’re going through. And for all we know, their challenges might just be much worse than yours but they choose to smile it off to make your day.

 

If you Love God…you’ll Love people. And that means…to Believe there is SOMETHING MORE.